Setting Boundaries® with Difficult People: Six Steps to SANITY for Challenging Relationships

by Allison Bottke; Karol Ladd

Publisher:

Harvest House Publishers

, 2011

Overview

Continuing her popular Setting Boundaries® series, Allison Bottke offer her distinctive “Six Steps to SANITY” to readers who must deal with difficult people.

S…Stop your own negative behavior
A…Assemble a support group
N…Nip excuses in the bud
I…Implement rules and boundaries
T….Trust your instincts
Y…Yield everything to God

Whether it’s a spouse, in-law, boss, coworker, family member, neighbor, or friend, readers who have allowed others to overstep their boundaries will learn how these six steps can help them reset those boundaries and take back their life…for good.

Setting Boundaries® with Difficult People is designed to inspire, empower, and equip readers with the tools to transform lives.

Contents

Top Highlights

“we are continually putting out fires instead of preventing them in the first place” (source)

“A lack of proper boundaries is often at the root of dysfunction. Therefore, learning how to understand and establish boundaries must be an important goal in our personal growth. In order to achieve this, however, we must overcome things like low self-esteem and passivity. We must learn to identify and respect our rights and needs and become skilled at assertively taking care of ourselves in relationships. This process allows our true selves to emerge, and suddenly healthy boundaries become the fences that provide us with safety—something we may never have experienced in childhood.” (source)

“The important thing is to learn to react to our situations and challenges with faith and not fear.^{2” (source)}

“boundaries are biblical—that in His compassionate love for us, even Jesus set boundaries.” (source)

“we’re too emotionally involved in situations to consider them objectively” (source)

Praise for Setting Boundaries® with Difficult People

“Setting Boundaries with Difficult People provides excellent insight and step-by-step action for every reader. I highly recommend this book. In fact, you should probably buy at least two of them—one for yourself and one to give to someone else. It is that good.”
—Terry Whalin, publisher, editor, and writer

“Allison Bottke has written a helpful and inspiring book on how to live with and manage difficult relationships at home, at work, and in our community. We all have people in our lives who challenge us, and yet God loves them as much as he loves us! So the task is to be kind, loving, grace-filled, and firm about how we wish to be treated. After reading this book you'll be well-equipped to do all of these things.”
—Karen O'Connor, author of Gettin' Old Ain't for Wimps and The Upside of Downsizing

“Setting Boundaries with Difficult People by Allison Bottke is an easy-to-read, encouraging book for those dealing with near-to-impossible situations and relationships in life that strain us beyond measure. Filled with heart-catching insight (you'll see yourself and your own situation here!), this helpful book brings ‘S-a-n-i-t-y’ to the situation and offers deeply spiritual and down-to-earth, practical advice for handling the tough-but-tender relationships in life. I am pleased to heartily recommend it—and any other publication by this wonderful Christian writer.”
—Peggie Bohanon, Founder, Peggie's Place Ministry, PeggiesPlace.com

Product Details

• Title : Setting Boundaries® with Difficult People: Six Steps to SANITY for Challenging Relationships
• Authors:
  • Bottke, Allison
  • Ladd, Karol
• Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
• Publication Date: 2011
• ISBN: 9780736941341

About the Authors

Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women’s Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of the SANITY Support Group, an outreach based on the Setting Boundaries® series (more than 150,000 sold). Her other books include the God Answers Prayers series, and she is the founder and general editor of more than a dozen volumes in the popular God Allows U-Turns® anthology. She has written or edited more than 30 nonfiction and fiction books, and is a frequent guest on national radio and TV programs. Allison lives in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

www.settingboundariesbooks.com

Awards

Winner of the Selah Award for Best Book of the Year for Setting Boundaries with Food in 2013