Overcoming Emotions that Destroy: Practical Help for Those Angry Feelings That Ruin Relationships

by Chip Ingram; Becca Johnson

Publisher:

Baker

, 2009

Overview

Constructive Ways to Handle Destructive Emotions

We all struggle with angry feelings, brought on by tension, pressure, and the blocked goals and frustrations of day-to-day life. The broken and stressed relationships that result from these feelings can overwhelm us. But now there's help.

Well-known teacher and speaker Chip Ingram teams up with psychologist and author Dr. Becca Johnson in this encouraging and practical book to show how many emotions both lead to anger and follow from it. Their message is clear: as we deal with anger, we deal with the primary cause for all destructive emotions.

With the help of this useful book, you too can overcome those emotions that destroy.

Key Features

• Helps readers to get at the truth about their anger
• Provides tools to deal with anger
• Offers theologically rooted and biblically accurate truths

Contents

Part 1: Introduction

• Hope for Our Anger
• Understanding Our Anger

Part 2: The Many Faces of Anger

• Why We Respond the Way We Do
• Spewers
• Stuffers
• Leakers

Part 3: Why We All Struggle with Anger

• Anger Is a Secondary Emotion
• The Tip of the Iceberg
• Hurt from Unmet Needs
• Frustration from Unmet Expectations
• Insecurity from Threatened Esteem

Part 4: Turning Anger from a Foe to a Friend

• The Anger ABCDs
• Anger Is a Choice

Part 5: God's Anger Management Plan

• Step 1: Be Quick to Hear
• Step 2: Be Slow to Speak
• Step 3: Be Slow to Anger

Part 6: Learning to Stop Anger before It Starts

• Minimize Stress
• Maximize God

Part 7: How to Be Good and Mad

• Express Anger
• Express Anger Appropriately
• Resolve Anger
• Resolving Deep Anger
• Anger's Higher Purpose

Top Highlights

“If you let anger get the best of you, it will reveal the worst of you.” (source)

“When you and I are angry, we tend to sin a lot. Anger that is not bridled nor righteously motivated can become a dangerous force. Our energy becomes focused on persevering and protecting our pride and our interests. When this happens, our anger becomes self-centered and self-righteous.” (source)

“First, anger may indicate that we have unmet needs and are feeling hurt” (source)

“Unmet expectations are the second area in which anger manifests itself and leads to feelings of frustration” (source)

“It’s vitally important to understand anger is the outside emotion sent to protect the inner, more sensitive aspects of our hearts. It’s a secondary response that hides a deeper or more sensitive issue. If we grasp this point, we’ll be well on our way to dealing with anger in constructive ways. When we feel angry, we need to ask ourselves, ‘Why am I feeling this way?’ Anger isn’t the first feeling to come, though it’s generally the first one to show outwardly. Wherever it surfaces, another emotion already existed.” (source)

Product Details

• Title: Overcoming Emotions that Destroy: Practical Help for Those Angry Feelings That Ruin Relationships
• Authors: Chip Ingram, Becca Johnson
• Publisher: Baker
• Print Publication Date: 2009
• Logos Release Date: 2012
• Pages: 288
• Era: era:contemporary
• Language: English
• Resources: 1
• Format: Digital › Logos Reader Edition
• Subject: Anger › Religious aspects--Christianity
• ISBNs: 9781441204141, 1441204148
• Resource ID: LLS:0E18002FEF232B9E51C67C87780ACCD8
• Resource Type: Monograph
• Metadata Last Updated: 2023-07-06T23:38:19Z