10 Lies Men Believe: The Truth About Women, Power, Sex and God—and Why it Matters

by Lee Grady

Publisher:

Charisma House

, 2011

Overview

10 Lies Men Believe is a compassionate but confrontational look at the reasons why so many Christian men today are in serious crisis. The author, who has spent eight years confronting the abuse of women in more than twenty countries, believes men are failing in marriage, fatherhood, friendships, and careers because of ten wrong mind-sets inherited from culture.  With gut-level honesty, the author offers practical answers for men who struggle with a variety of issues, including addiction, abusive tendencies, pornography, controlling behavior, and emotional problems rooted in a lack of proper fathering. The book is also an excellent resource for women who are suffering because of mistreatment by the men in their lives.

 

Contents

Table of Contents

 

Foreword

Introduction: Have You Been Brainwashed?

1. God made men superior to women.

Genesis 1 account / Man and woman created equal / What ezer means / Ephesians 5 principles of equality/ Your wife is not your maid / God’s heart for daughters / Why fathers must value children equally, regardless of gender

2. A man cannot be close to his father.

How sons are affected by abandonment, abuse, cruelty, or neglect / Fathers as bad examples / Why we need the love of the heavenly Father

3. A real man is defined by financial and professional success.

Pressure of culture / The spirit of competition / Putting the kingdom of God first in your life / Vanity of pursuing riches / Qualities of real heroes in history: courage, sacrifice, and generosity

4. A man is the “boss” of his family.

Meaning of “headship” in Ephesians 5 / Concept of oneness and intimacy / Sharing money in marriage / Sharing duties and serving your wife / Becoming your wife’s encourager

5. Sex is primarily for the man’s enjoyment, not the woman’s.

1 Corinthians 7:3 – 4 principle / Understanding a woman’s sexual response / How men exploit women / The roots of adultery / Sexual maturity vs. immaturity

6. It’s OK for a man to hit or abuse a woman to teach her a lesson.

Examples and types of domestic abuse / How to break the cycle / What God really meant in the Malachi 3 divorce passage / 1 Peter 3:7 principle / How Jesus opposed abuse of women

7. Real men don’t need close male friendships.

            Why men close their hearts / Fear of exposure / How every man needs a Paul, a Barnabas and a Timothy

             / Jonathan and David principle

8. A man should never admit his weaknesses.

James 5:18 principle of confessing sins to a brother / Why men keep secrets / Dealing with addictions to drugs, alcohol, pornography, etc. / Dealing with sexual temptation / How men respond to depression

9. Real men don’t cry.

Stereotypes of “strong” men / Biblical examples of men who wept / Why spirituality is not a weakness / The power of compassion in a man / The stony heart vs. the heart of flesh

10. A man should never receive spiritual ministry from a woman.

Why the church needs both spiritual fathers and mothers / Old and New Testament examples of women

leaders / Misunderstanding of Paul’s words to Timothy about women / The power of a godly wife

 

Product Details

• Title : 10 Lies Men Believe: The Truth About Women, Power, Sex and God—and Why it Matters
• Author: Grady, Lee
• Publisher: Charisma House
• Publication Date: 2011
• ISBN: 9781616384029

About the Author

J. Lee Grady is contributing editor for Charisma. He was the magazine's editor for 11 years. He has been involved in Christian journalism since 1981. A native of Atlanta, he has been with Charisma since 1992, serving as news editor, managing editor, and then becoming editor in 1999. Lee's book 10 Lies the Church Tells Women, published in 2000, opened a unique door for him to preach internationally. He has since traveled to 12 nations, challenging the church to release women in ministry and to end abuse and gender discrimination. He and his wife, Deborah, have four daughters.